Comments on: Threads of Love http://blog.ninthball.com/2009/02/threads-of-love/ Those with insight should have the foresight to act or react with wisdom Mon, 15 Feb 2010 05:22:05 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: gracefulpillar http://blog.ninthball.com/2009/02/threads-of-love/comment-page-1/#comment-97 gracefulpillar Mon, 04 May 2009 17:17:05 +0000 http://blog.ninthball.com/?p=69#comment-97 When you love, you express it- verbally and in kind. The two contributions are very correct and describes different kinds of women - in fact people. Different people feel loved through different acts of love. I will recommend that you read the book "The Five Love languages" by Gary Chapman. Briefly they are: Words of Affirmation, Quality time, Receiving gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch. the important thing is discovering what the love language of your partner is (its usually a combination but one of them usually stands out). One can find this out by discussion or asking question. Because if your action is not appreciated, you might feel hurt. Another way is to watch what the person loves to do for others. The mistake is that we always think that what we appreciate is what others / partners appreciate. These 5 love languages are so basic that it can be applied to express love to family members too - children, teenagers, mom, dad and also to God. These love languages were originally spoken and expressed by Jesus when he was here on earth. Good write up and great comments! When you love, you express it- verbally and in kind. The two contributions are very correct and describes different kinds of women – in fact people. Different people feel loved through different acts of love. I will recommend that you read the book “The Five Love languages” by Gary Chapman. Briefly they are: Words of Affirmation, Quality time, Receiving gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch. the important thing is discovering what the love language of your partner is (its usually a combination but one of them usually stands out). One can find this out by discussion or asking question. Because if your action is not appreciated, you might feel hurt. Another way is to watch what the person loves to do for others. The mistake is that we always think that what we appreciate is what others / partners appreciate.
These 5 love languages are so basic that it can be applied to express love to family members too – children, teenagers, mom, dad and also to God. These love languages were originally spoken and expressed by Jesus when he was here on earth. Good write up and great comments!

]]> By: The Gem http://blog.ninthball.com/2009/02/threads-of-love/comment-page-1/#comment-55 The Gem Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:55:11 +0000 http://blog.ninthball.com/?p=69#comment-55 to AdmirerGQ: not to knock your female friends - cos i do not know them - but i don't believe every female needs you to buy them something to show your love. Actions speak louder than words/Gifts in my opinion - and i know quite a few females will agree with me. That's not saying either that some females don't want the gifts and shopping sprees...but just saying there are many others out there who don't place emphasis on it. I for one do not especially believe in Valentine's day - all the hoopla to supposedly show your love on that designated one day of the year, by doing a bunch of meaningless things year after year in an effort to outdo the previous year...or the cards, dinner, jewelry, chocolate and all the cliched gifts....that's just a waste of my time. I agree with the lists above regarding what you do when you love someone, and what true love does. My stance is always - if you truly love someone it isn't hard to show it, and it's even easier when the love is reciprocated. When two people love each other, they both know it - the gifts and all that are just a spin off. to AdmirerGQ: not to knock your female friends – cos i do not know them – but i don’t believe every female needs you to buy them something to show your love. Actions speak louder than words/Gifts in my opinion – and i know quite a few females will agree with me.

That’s not saying either that some females don’t want the gifts and shopping sprees…but just saying there are many others out there who don’t place emphasis on it.

I for one do not especially believe in Valentine’s day – all the hoopla to supposedly show your love on that designated one day of the year, by doing a bunch of meaningless things year after year in an effort to outdo the previous year…or the cards, dinner, jewelry, chocolate and all the cliched gifts….that’s just a waste of my time.

I agree with the lists above regarding what you do when you love someone, and what true love does.

My stance is always – if you truly love someone it isn’t hard to show it, and it’s even easier when the love is reciprocated. When two people love each other, they both know it – the gifts and all that are just a spin off.

]]> By: AdmirerGQ http://blog.ninthball.com/2009/02/threads-of-love/comment-page-1/#comment-47 AdmirerGQ Wed, 18 Feb 2009 01:38:58 +0000 http://blog.ninthball.com/?p=69#comment-47 I have also always asked my female friends this question: If we were marry, is it ok if I just make you breakfast in bed, get you a card with words I’ve written, or just say Happy whatever day it is? The answer I get every time is no. Most female believe that if you love them than you should also buy something. A part from showing or expressing love in a brotherly/sisterly kind of way, I don’t believe it should be hard to express to someone who you romantically love. I think the only reason why it can become hard or a person can have some hesitant in showing or telling it, is because they don’t feel it in the first place. I have also always asked my female friends this question: If we were marry, is it ok if I just make you breakfast in bed, get you a card with words I’ve written, or just say Happy whatever day it is? The answer I get every time is no. Most female believe that if you love them than you should also buy something.

A part from showing or expressing love in a brotherly/sisterly kind of way, I don’t believe it should be hard to express to someone who you romantically love. I think the only reason why it can become hard or a person can have some hesitant in showing or telling it, is because they don’t feel it in the first place.

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